I was asked why I have forgiven one person but not another. I thought about the question. For a minute.
The person asking me this I don’t speak to or any of the people connected to him or his sociopathic partner. The thing is, he’s wrong. I’m in the place of forgive and almost forgotten. It has taken me a couple of years, but forgiveness is for me, not the person/s who did the hurting.
When you hold anger in your heart towards another, it does nothing but continue to poison you. I love myself too much to poison myself. I’m a grandma now and besides my grandchildren, I receive so much love from my closest family and friends that I don’t need to spend time and energy dwelling on past hurts.
I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. It does, I feel triggered now and then and get upset, but it doesn’t last or stay for even a day. That’s good.
How I got there? Just keep focusing on my love. What you focus on grows. You know that.
When you forgive someone you also must decide if you will allow them into your life. I simply ask myself if this person is likely to cause
Me harm in the future. The answer was clear. When there’s a sociopath in your life, to get them out of your life you simply cut all ties. No responses, no answers, no reactions to their attempts to rehook you. This is hard when every few months I get an email or before I blocked the phone number, a call with voicemail or text. I breathe through the temptation to react or respond then let it go and focus on what I love.
This post is a response to an attempt for contact and though I did not respond, just deleted the email, I am writing a response for all of you who might read this because 1 in 4 people have had a run in with a sociopath (perhaps more). If you have, you know how hard it is to get their hooks out of you.
It is worth the effort. You will come out much stronger and much more powerful in your life. Promise.